6 Steps to Get Rid of Your Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs SUCK. Am I right?! But don’t feel bad, everyone has them. I define a limiting belief as a thought you keep thinking that is stopping you from getting/doing something you want.

I want to share a very straightforward way to get rid of limiting beliefs. (I like to make things as least complicated as possible, and this topic is super important IMO.) I've used these 6 steps to tackle some of my beliefs in the past and still use these strategies to work through any current negative thoughts I have. Let's dive in shall we?

6 Steps to Get Rid of Your Limiting Beliefs by Charuk Studios

1. Write out Your Negative Beliefs

Write out the negative belief you have, verbalize it, and accept it’s a fear of yours. Just saying it out loud will help you realize what’s holding you back. Anytime I feel stuck (which is like every other day) I think to myself “what’s stopping me?”

Want to know a few of my recent negative beliefs? I’m sure hearing mine might make you feel a bit better about your own.

If I change the focus of my business I’m starting from scratch and I’ll be behind my peers.

I can’t meet the right guy at this point in my life, I need to be more established.

If I share too much personal info on my blog and social media I will come across as unprofessional and people will judge me.

These are a few doozies, right? I don’t share these thoughts with anyone (except my bestie because she never judges me, bless her soul) but now I’m sharing them publicly.

 

2. Determine what instilled these beliefs

We are influenced by many things, but mainly people. News, media, friends, colleagues, and family all heavily influence what we believe to be true.

Sometimes our deepest fears are from traumatic encounters, childhood memories and other peoples fears projected onto us. The next step to get rid of your limiting beliefs is to find out the source of them.

Here's where I think some of my limiting beliefs came from:

For me I’ve known a lot of people to change career paths or start a new business and abandon their old one. My dad actually did this. He left his business and went back into the work force and had a hard time with the transition. And he was starting back at zero, so compared to his friends he was behind in his career and set back financially. You could see how as a kid and teenager growing up this would be a fear of mine as well.

I don’t feel like I have my life together, and I have a strong belief that you attract what you are, not what you want. I’ve seen ambitious women that were in the early stages of their career settle for guys that were at the same stage as them but not equally ambitious. And then as time went on the differences grew, because one partner wanted to keep evolving and growing while the other wanted to coast and keep staying the same.

I’ve never felt like any of my past boyfriends were growing with me. It seemed like I found a good match for the stage of life I was at but would grow apart from them shortly after. So from my past experiences I have a belief that I need to be “more established” (whatever that means) before I find a good match.

Social media is one big highlight reel. Everyone posts their best moments and leaves out the reality that life isn’t always perfect. No one would want to work with someone who didn’t have their life together right? Also during school I feel everyone was accustomed to projecting the image that you have it all together. Having feelings or experiencing negative emotions is a sign of weakness, and bullies would take advantage of you if you ever dared to express those insecurities.

Those were some pretty heavy thoughts right? It’s pretty crazy to analyze why we think a certain way and what exactly has shaped these limiting beliefs.

 

3. Determine your new positive belief

Okay now for the happy part of this process! What new belief do you want to believe!? Yes you get to decide.

I for sure don’t want to be stuck with those negative thinking patterns. So instead I’m changing my beliefs to be more positive!

If I change the focus of my business I’m starting from scratch and I’ll be behind my peers.

-->  There is no such thing as being behind, everyone has their own timeline. And the sooner I pursue the path that I feel most aligned with, the better. I’m not starting from scratch, I’m refining my vision as I learn more about myself.

I can’t meet the right guy at this point in my life, I need to be more established.

--> My right partner won’t judge where I’m at in my journey, they will love and appreciate who I am as a person. Neither of us have to be established when we meet, we just need the same life goals and values and together we can build a successful life.

If I share too much personal info on my blog and social media I will come across as unprofessional and people will judge me.

--> I would rather be authentically myself than present a perfect image. My experiences in life may help someone, which is reason enough to share. People will judge you no matter what you do so you may as well do what you truly want to do in life.

How good does it feel to read these new positive beliefs?!  When I read them I feel so happy and hopeful and the fear starts to slip away.

 

4. Look for evidence

It may take time for these new beliefs to sink in. A way to speed it up is to look for evidence they are true.

What works for me is finding role models that fit these new beliefs I want to adapt.

I’ve found people that have pivoted their business and completely started over but they are happy now that they are on the right course. This change didn’t hinder their success, it helped it! Examples are Amanda Bucci and Jasmine Star.

Amanda built a fitness empire and now has switched her focus from workout videos to business and mindset tips. A lot of her audience wasn’t interested in her new focus but it was what she felt pulled to do. Now she’s teaching other aspiring entrepreneurs how to build an audience on Instagram and launched a successful online course about the topic.

Jasmine Star started as a photographer but now has shifted to be an marketing educator for creative entrepreneurs. I can imagine when she shifted it was hard but she’s totally rocking it in her new industry, and the fact she started as a photographer has helped her imo. Her visuals are beautiful and her brand is stunningly cohesive.

I also look for couples that had the same goals and vision for their life but met before either was established. A few influencer husband and wife duo’s come to mind such as Dezi & Steven Perkins, Jenny & Freddy Cipoletti and Sazan & Stevie Hendrix.

Lastly I look up to people who share their most vulnerable parts with the world and face judgement but do it because it helps so many people. An example is Jenna Kutcher. The fact that she shares her insecurities doesn’t make her seem less professional at all. Instead she is much more relatable and loved by her audience.

These people prove to me that my NEW beliefs are indeed true. If they can do it, so can I! Now time for you to do some research, find people who have overcome your fears and limiting beliefs to look up to as role models!

 

5. Think of the worst case & how you will overcome it

This may sound counter productive, but when I finally come to terms with what the absolute worst case scenario is, I realize I’ll be okay if that happens (even if it is unlikely).

Worst case #1. I change directions in my business, I completely fail. What does “fail” even mean?? I create a product or offer a new service that no one buys…? Okay so worst case is I go in a completely new direction and my audience shrinks, no one cares what I’m doing, and I make zero money.

Well I know I can always get a job, heck I have a part time one now. I know I have useful skills and experience that I can earn money, I won’t be broke & living on the street. And if I change my business to be more in line with what I want and no one is interested... well I decided to start a business that I was passionate about, I never did it to please other people! Only to help those who connected with what I was doing. So I’ll be okay, if anything I will learn from the experience.

Worst case #2: I don’t meet a partner now or ever… I feel saying I won’t meet someone ever is a little extreme. But maybe it takes a while and I’m single until I’m in my thirties.

Okay that would kinda suck, but I know that I’m surrounded by people that love me. Life is very wonderful now and if it takes a while for me to meet the right person so be it! I’ll have fun and enjoy life in the meantime. I’m single now and have never been happier so that is proof enough that I’ll be more than okay.

Worst case #3: I guess the worst case would be if I share too much personal info and people judge me they could leave hateful comments or just stop following altogether.

If I’m being authentically me and not hurting anyone but I actually have good intentions, I can’t help how people interpret what I say and do. There will always be people judging you, if it’s not online it’s in real life. Being true to yourself encourages other to do the same! I know this because it was from watching other people be raw and real on social media that gave me the courage to do the same. I'll keep doing my thing for the few that appreciate it and block the haters if I have to!

I think about the worst case scenarios to help me realize I'LL BE OKAY even if it happens. Most of the time the worst possible outcome isn't actually that bad..

6. Recite Affirmations

I talked briefly about affirmations in my self care blog post. I’m including this as a crucial step because affirmations rewire how your brain thinks!

Some may see it as stating a lie, but I see it as stating what you know can be true.

When you say a statement over and over again it sends a very clear signal to your Reticular Activating System (part of your brain that filters the information we are exposed to everyday) that this is important to you.

Here is an excerpt that explains how affirmations work:

"The other way affirmations work is that they create a dynamic tension in our beings. If what I am saying is at a higher vibration that what I perceive the truth to be, the dynamic tension is uncomfortable. For instance, if I am saying “I am joyfully and healthfully at my ideal weight” when in actuality I am 10, 20, 30+ pounds above my ideal weight, a painful incongruence is felt between what I perceive the truth to be and what I am saying. Since this is uncomfortable, we want to rid ourselves of the tension. There are only two ways to do that: one is to stop saying the affirmation; the other is to raise the bar on reality by making the affirmation and reality match." (Source)

Here are a few general affirmations that I love:

·      Everything always works out for me

·      Happiness is my natural state of being

·      I am a creator

·      Money flows to me easily

·      I am surrounded by love

I could honestly get more specific, and I encourage you to write out your own affirmations custom to your life goals.

 

Now that you’ve done all these steps you might have to revisit them now and again. Sometimes I return to negative thinking patterns, but it helps to write all these steps out to reread in that case. Then eventually these new ways of thinking become habitual!

I hope you found this post helpful and I encourage you to share this process with people close to you to help them improve their beliefs. Lastly when you see people around you achieving and living in accordance with your new belief, applaud them because even if you aren’t quite there yet, it’s reaffirming what you want is possible!🙌

Cheers babes & until next time!😘